Our readers want to get to know you first, tell us about YOU what is your story?
I’m awesome! I have a great funny personality and I truly care about people. I am from Chico, CA but I now live in Santa Rosa, CA after living 19 years in San Diego. I have a degree in Construction Management that I have used for 23 years. I am also and entrepreneur with 2 Network Marketing Businesses Arbonne & World Financial Group. I have 2 boys. Soheil 10 and Raiden 7 and I am a single mom. I joined a sorority in college which was my first introduction into leadership and networking. The best decision of my life alongside of having kids.
Now let’s talk business, what do you do? Have you always wanted to have your own business- what inspired you to go down this journey?
I have 3 streams of income. I didn’t know/understand the tremendous value of having multiple streams until I was affected by the recession in 2009. I realized a few years later that I was tired of my job but not tired of the paycheck but I felt like I was made for more and the idea of staying in the construction industry for another 20 years was, honestly, depressing.
I was often asked why I didn’t just start my own construction business. In my immediate that was heck no! Too much risk too much responsibility and I knew I would have to be working way too many more hours than I already did. And I knew that’s not the lifestyle that I wanted. In 2013/2014 I started searching for something new, but I wasn’t sure what I was looking for. Initially I thought I was going to either go back to school or learn through reading a different profession and I was gravitating towards something with health. Then I was introduced to the world of network marketing with Arbonne, a health and wellness business. I found myself with a passion to be personally healthy and then to also teach people how to be healthy so that they could have a healthy lifestyle versus a sickly lifestyle. I mean, who wants to live to be old and sick, nobody. Now I get paid to teach people how to get healthy and how to get wealthy. I have been building my business ever since.
Just recently I have added another NWM business with WFG, World Financial Group so I can continue to help people in another capacity with their financial wealth. I have always been one to advocate for people to learn how to take better care of their money that they have worked so hard to get to begin with. Now, I have a platform that’s teaching me how to do it better, teach others and get paid for it as well.
What advice do you have for moms who want to start a business?
Life is full of lessons, what has motherhood taught you?
OMGosh, that you are not really in control but it is a controlled chaos. “Balance” is not a real thing, it is what you have as a “balance” in your house and it is different for everyone. Give yourself grace. You CANNOT do it by yourself. Make sure as soon as you have a child you don’t coddle your partner andthink they can’t do it like you. You are correct. They can’t do things like you. They do it like they do it and you need to be okay with that unless it is detrimental to the children. They can figure out their ownway to connect with their children and you need to make sure they do that. The kids will always want mom BUT that is exacerbated if you continue to allow only yourself to be able to connect and comfort your child and get them things. It can be exhausting. It also continues to tell your children that there are certain roles that each parent plays. You don’t have to follow the traditional rules. If need be make the rules fluid that is another challenge for boundaries even with your partner, if you have one.
My opinion, we are a team and there is no such thing as “roles.” Children need love, guidance, direction, compassion and TIME WITH YOU.
Get kids off electronics and go on a bike ride with them. Don’t baby talk with kids. They are little humans and don’t need to be spoken down to. Give them the power to think for themselves and have opinions. Have them feel comfortable to speak with you about everything. Don’t judge them, teach them, guide them. Understand they are their own human and they have their own personalities and dreams that may not align with yours. Love them unconditionally. HEAR them. LISTEN. Talk to them by looking them in their eyes and kneel down to their level.
Motherhood has also taught me that more often than not your work bosses will not understand the true depth of responsibility of being a parent. Society doesn’t support parents enough. Parenting is a lot of sacrifice and often a thankless job. As women, we can run any business if you can run a household. As mothers we are NOT JUST MOTHERS! We are true businesswomen at heart and very organized. We
are NOT just moms. We are powerful women who are made for more without sacrificing our family.